To Messina, the 70-year-old man, who she described as a big teddy bear, was much more.
“He was always my protector, my hero, my first true love, daddy’s little girl,” she told Fox News.
It was also her last living parent after losing her mom to cancer the day after her wedding, roughly 19 years ago.
Arbeeny was one of nearly 15,000 nursing home residents who died in the wake of the New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo administration’s March 25 directive that barred nursing homes from refusing people just because they had COVID-19. It was intended to free up space in hospitals swamped in the early days of the pandemic.
One month to the day after the order was put in effect, April 25, Arbeeny died.
“He was on lockdown for seven weeks in the nursing home and he was scared,” Messina said. “He kept saying, ‘What’s going on with this virus?’ And I said, ‘Dad, we’re on lockdown and please wear a mask. I can’t have you getting this virus’.”
On April 15, they talked, laughed and cried over FaceTime.
The very next day Messina got a “frantic phone call” from the nursing home that her father had fallen on the floor and had a hard time breathing. He was rushed to the hospital.
Although he “clearly had every sign of the virus” Messina said he was brought back to the nursing home that same night.
Messina could barely fathom why.
You bring “infected COVID-19 patients from a hospital you put them mixed with the most vulnerable population. When you know people are in nursing homes, not because they’re healthy, they’re compromised,” she said. “So, now you’re setting them up for a disaster.”
Within days of being transferred back, his health started to rapidly decline.
“He was gasping to breathe and I sat there helpless,” she said. “Somebody who protected me my whole life, my biggest protector, and I couldn’t save him.”
“So the hospital literally sent him back to that facility to die alone,” she said. “And nobody deserves to die alone,” she added.
Messina is “beyond angry with the governor,” saying that none of the thousands of families should ever have to go through something like this.
“You know what it’s like to have a funeral with 10 people?” Messina said. “I couldn’t honor my father properly. I had to wait seven months to give my father the proper funeral that he deserved.”
Although losing her mother to cancer nearly two decades ago “was the hardest hit,” Messina said the grief she feels over her father, “is a whole different level.”
“I don’t wish it on anybody,” she said.
The Associated Press contributed to this report
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