When a Man is Distant After Sex – Why This Happens and How to Change It

When a man is distant after sex, it leaves the woman he's involved with full of questions. She wonders what's going on and what exactly she did wrong. In most cases, if she tries to talk to him about it, he'll act surprised or say he has no idea what she means. If you are in this position with the man you're interested in, you know it can leave you second guessing yourself. You'll feel unforgettable of everything. You'll question whether he did not enjoy himself when you two were making love or if he ever really cared for you at all. It's difficult and if you leave it unaddressed, chances are that the distance he's trying to attain will be a permanent thing. You do not want that so you need to first understand why he's acting this way and also it's important to learn what you can do to change it.

Understanding what it means when a man is distant after sex is not nearly as complicated as you may think. Some women automatically assume it means that he's pulling because he's so overcome with emotion. That's not the case at all. Typically if a man starts to pull back after you two have a slept together it's because he's asking the timing. If you two just started dating and you were already intimate, that may impress him in the moment, but afterwards it will not. As soon as it's over he'll start wondering whether your willingness to share yourself so openly is something you regularly do.

Men do not want to feel as though the women are with are promiscuous. They do not ever want to wonder whether you've slept with other men as soon in your relationship with them. If you did it with him, he's going to assume you've done it with other men too.

Obviously you can not go back and undo the intimacy. That line has been crossed already. If this man is someone you believe you want to build a relationship with, you have to get to work changing his image of you.

To begin with it means no more sex until you've established a new dynamic with him. You're going to take a step back and date the man. Since he's become distant, do not count on him asking you out again. He may but chances are that he's doing it because he wants to be intimate, and little more. You have to set the new guidelines for the relationship. Meet him at your date destination instead of him picking you up. Do not go back to his place for now. Just steer clear of any situations that would put you in a position of him expecting you to have sex.

If you can do this for a few weeks, and get to know him on a basic level, the rushed intimate will become a thing of the past. Work on establishing a real emotional connection with him and the fact that you slept with him so soon will not seem so unflattering anymore.


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